Friday, July 17, 2009
No school today. We went out for lunch and grocery shopping. After we came home, Den decided to play with two books that she had not being playing for a long long time, both by Stephen T. Johnson. They are more like boy's book but Den and I loved them.
The first one is called "My Little Red Toolbox". Inside the book, it has cardboard removable tools like screwdriver, wrench, hammer, and etc. The reader can take out the 'tools' and practice them on the book. Den was obsessed with the erasable slate. She used it to drew games for me to play. She drew a church on one side, me at the other side and road in between, then she asked me to find my way to church. :)
The 2nd one is even more extravagant. It is called 'My Little Blue Robot' and you can use the parts to build a robot that speak! Read my write up about the books in http://www.squidoo.com/ahomeschoolingmomjornel
After that she finished off her worksheets on money from yesterday. She did not finish the work and I did not realize because I was chatting with SY. She also did another 2 worksheet from sonlight Developing Early Learner Book 3 (finally!).
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Another good for everything but homeschool day. haha! I slept at 5am and woke up at 6am to go to IKEA membership sales!! We wanted to make sure we get the wonderful dinning set that matches all our furniture. It was RM599 but for a limited period today (7am-930am, while stocks last) the price was slashed down to RM199!! What a fabulous duel! Plus the delivery and assemble service, we paid the total of RM260 for a table and 4 chairs that looked right at home in our kitchen! So happy.
We finished our purchase at 730am and ate breakfast in IKEA. After that we decided to walk around IKEA to avoid the morning rush hour. However, IKEA delivery guy called us at 815am and said they will be at our house at 9am!! We were like, WHAT? We were still at IKEA! haha! So we asked them to come a bit later and at the same time, we rushed back home. Blessed, the traffic was not too heavy today.
By 1030am, our new dinning set has been assembled and displayed in our kitchen. Then we picked up Den from my parents' place (she spent the night there so that she didn't have to wake up so early today).
We did some school from Noon to 1pm. We practiced the Bible verse, read 2 Bible stories - Jesus and His disciples and the miracle of turning water to wine.
Then we look at A Child's Book of Art and A First Word Bank. Today, we read about opposite. This was the first time I introduced the word 'opposite' to Den. She was familiar with the concept of opposite even though she did not know that's what it was called.
I tested her after that. I said something and she would have to give me the opposite. For example, I said, 'cold' and she replied 'hot' etc. She had no problem in doing that except for a few we cant agreed on - I said, 'sunny day' (and expected 'rainy day') but she said, 'snowy day'! haha!
We cant do Mother Goose today because ST was using the PC, so we read 2 poem from Animals Animals. One of the poem mentioned the word - igloo. I taught her Igloo in 07 May 2009 when we talked about different types of houses. I was so surprised to find out that not only she remembered what Igloo was, she remembered it was for the people who stay in North pole!! She also remembered no one stay in South Pole except for the scientist!
We also read a familiar poem/song "Over in the meadow" from the Children book of virtue. Then she worked on her scrapbook (she was supposed to trace the word 'girl' and draw a girl from yesterday lesson but she forgotten all about it) and did her Yamaha homework.
We had lunch and then my friend SY and her bb boy came for visit.
While SY tried to settle her son down for a nap, I quickly went tru Chinese flesh card with Den. She get most of the words now. Then before I can count how many stickers she got today, she started to count for me, in this manner - 2, 4, 6, 8, 10....all the way to 28! I was so surprised. That's the way I always count her flesh cards point (because 2 words in one card) but I have never taught her to count that way.
I told ST about it. He decided to test her and asked her to count in 3. She did! 3, 6, 9, 12, 15 and up to 18! She did it with 4 too! We were so amazed (at least I was! ST looked cool!) Then ST asked her let said if she was going to buy 3 set of things, in each set there are 6 items, so how many things would she get? She said it was 6+6+6. She knew 6+6 =12 but she got 12+6 wrong! I was just so happy because she understand it was 6+6+6! Uh...is that mean I should start teaching her time table?
After that I let her do 2 Chinese revision worksheets and 2 Money worksheets while I have a good chat with SY. Every time I talked with SY, I realized how my memory failed me. I can only recalled very little of what I did with Den when she was her son's age (1+) which is why I need to continue to write this blog. I also encourage SY to start writing her own blog. It will be a good memory tracker as well as therapeutic. :) Those thousands of words that you did not say everyday because we are too busy with kid and life, now we can say them in blog! :)
That pretty much summed up what we did for Sonlight week 22, there are still 2 stories that I am going to tell her as bed time story and Mother Goose. I think we can do that either tomorrow or Saturday. We are taking a break from schooling for awhile (so happy!). Shall resume the blog when we resume schooling...might be awhile.
童书非童书 (book title direct translation: children book but not children book) is a good book in introducing how to choose and read children book to children. Even though most of the book the author introduced in his book cannot be found over here in MLY, the principle applied. I believe our church library carry this book.
After this 2 years of homeschooling, I have to say the best way to teach a child is to read to him/her. One of the reason I choose Sonlight instead of other homeschooling program is because it emphasized on read aloud. In fact, parents are expected to continue to read aloud (until Lever 7, which is around 13-14 years old) even after the child learned to read. The child will read on her grade lever but will listen to stories that are way above her reading skill. That way the child will continue to improve on her vocab.
Sometime I see parents wanted to teach their kids to read as early as possible so that they can read book themselves independently. I think that is very sad because then they loose out of the fun and enjoyment of sharing a good book together.
Of cause, reading takes lots of time. It can get rather boring when you have to read a same old story again and again and again. Isn't it better if the kids can entertain themselves with their books while we as parents can do something more productive than reading to them? I used to think of it that way too but after using Sonlight, I changed my mind.
The books that I have been reading to Den is in the reading level of std 2-5. Yet, she has no problem in understanding most of them. I might need to paraphrase on some or explain some words but most of the time, we just enjoyed the stories together. There were so many time, after reading a great story, Den and I just looked at each other and enjoyed the magic moments together. Those are the moment we will treasure forever. I don't want to lose those moments.
The book has listed lots and lots of benefit of reading books - learn to categorize, logical thinking (event sequencing), observation skill, EQ, practical skills, etc, just to name a few. It also explained which type of book can help to improve which type of skill.
It also helped answered some of my questions about reading aloud:
1. should I read straight from book or paraphrasing? - depending on the books.
2. Den always cried after a sad story, should I stop reading story with sad ending for her? -No. The author think the beauty of reading is it can provide different emotional experience for kids, so let her laugh at humorous stories and cried with sad stories. A relief to me, since the next lever of Sonlight due with 2nd world war stories.
3. Den refused to tell story even though I kept encouraging her (she claimed she cant 'read' the words). I even bought books without words to encourage her to tell story and yet she refused - telling story is actually only come in later stage when she is 6-7 years old!! Ok, now , I understand.
That's all for now. Read the book if you have not. Every chapter is very short and very easy to read.
It has been a very eventful day. :)
I started the day thinking it was going to be a slow and steady, just nice for homeschool day...so I took about an hour hug hug Den after she woke up at 10am and then another hour practicing piano after her breakfast.
Then when we finally settle down for school it was 1230 already. We had a new verse today:
"A wise man restrains his anger. ~Proverbs 19:11"
To explain the word 'restrain', I held Den tightly and asked her to struggle to get away. Then I explained to her, a wise man restrains his anger, even when he really really want to get angry, he can still hold his anger tightly and not let go. I think I need this verse more than her. :)
After that we read two Bible stories - one on Jesus' baptism and the other on Jesus tempted by Satan. It is very interesting to note that in the Bible that we used Family-Time Bible In Pictures (part of Sonlight preK program), it pointed out in the 2nd story the reason that Satan tried to temp Jesus. This is what it said,
"Do you remember how Satan tempted Adam and Eve to disobey God? and when they did, it caused all the rest of us to have sinful hearts? Well, when Satan saw that Jesus had come to give us new, pure hearts and to make us good, Satan tried to stop him."
I have never thought of why would Satan tempted Jesus. I just kind of thought, it tried to tempt anyone who want to get close to God. :)
After that we practiced Phonic. Before we can finished the lesson (it was a long passage for her to read today), SE called and asked if I could take care of W&W for an hour. Of cause, I said yes, Den is always happy when her friends come over to play. I had to stop the lesson half way, and get her to eat lunch right away, or else she wont be able to play when her friends arrived.
That motivated her to finish her lunch faster. But still not fast enough. W&W came before she can finished lunch. They played by them selves while Den finished off her lunch.
After that, 3 of them kind of entertained themselves and no supervision was needed. I cleaned the kitchen, straighten up the rooms (is my weekly cleaning day again). They played UNO, dressing up and finally reading books in the study room. Last week, Shu Teng's aunt gave Den lots of books (her grand children recently migrated) and they were having fun reading them together when SE came over to pick up W&W.
After W&W left, I started school with Den again. We finished off the phonic practice and started to read Mother Goose. Half way tru, ST came in and told me something wrong with the car (now, fixed) and also he need to use the study room for teleconferencing and everyone had to be very very quite while he is at it.
So I ended up letting Den watch more Chinese cartoon from 430-545!!! She is really hooked with the Chinese cartoon nowadays. Today, I gave her the choice of watching goodtv Chinese cartoon or Disney playhouse (Astro 613) in my mom place (She is spending the nite there), she actually choose Goodtv.
So we kind of like did not do much with school today but I think it is alright. Schooling is a long term process.
Sunday, July 12, 2009
Hope for those who are currently involved in homosexual lifestyles. Fear for the challenges our kids are going to face.
There are so many pit holes awaiting for them and the evil one is like the roaring lion waiting to eat them up.
At the end of the day, the root of all problem all started in family. I think it is very important for all parents to learn about some of the basic skills to raise up thier kids with healthy gender idintity. Honestly, there are not so hard for a healthy family.
This are the roots and causes for male homosexuality:
-Need touch; if lacked, child will get confused as in need touch so much that he/she cant differentiate good touch and bad touch any more.
18months-5 years old:
-A boy need to receive gender affirmation both verbally and physically from his parents, for example, telling your son: "You are so handsome/strong, etc, just like your daddy!" Keep affirm he is like a boy, he is like his dad.(a boy should not hear things like this from parents: "Why you are more like a girl than a boy?" or "Why you cry/play/fight like a girl, not like a boy?")
-A boy will notice he is different from his mom, he need to dis-identify with his mom and connect to dad.
-Parents must team up to assist this boy in this transition phase. (Mom have to help son to identify with dad. Instead of saying things like, "playing football with your dad is too rough for you, come inside and bake with me." She need to say, "when you play football you look just like your dad! What a wonderful sight!"
-If parents are not in good relationship, then when a mom say "You are just like your dad!" It is more like an accusation than affirmation. This would bring the opposite effect.
-If dad is cold and boy experienced hurt and rejection. He will try to seek the acceptance somewhere else when he is older. The boy grow up did not know how to have a healthy relationship with others boy/man, thus crave more for their acceptance and affirmation.
5-12 years old:
-Need to build up healthy same-sex friendship. This play an important role in development of secure gender and sexual identity.
-Those who did not de-identify with mom and connected with dad might have "Pre-homosexual" tendercy. "Prehomosexual" boys are very polite, responsible, clean, neat, sensitive to others (ESPECIALLY their moms need), aware of what other people expect of them and tend to deny their own needs and wants and would rather make other people happy. Homosexual behaviour is a way of being bad.
-"Prehomosexual" boys are usually taunted by same sex peer and usually not pick for sports. They craved the same sex friendship and yet was once again rejected.
-If nothing is done, they will become homosexual.
ROOT & causes of Female homosexuality:
1.Physical trauma - sexual abuse, incest, rape, neglect
2. Emotional trauma- abandonment, rejection, unmet needs for love, acceptance, gender identification and validation, lack of protection, verbal abuse
3. Unhealthy parental roles:
a. Girl see her mom as "non-nurturer": break down relationship with same sex parent lead to gender identity crisis.
b. Girl see her dad as "non-protector": girl need dad to affirm her femininity (his opinion provides affirmation or disapproval in a way that a mom cannot). Poor male role model inhibit a woman frm effectively relating to men.
-Perceives mom as nurturer, comforter and trust her to provide life's basic need = feel safe n secure = identify with mom
-girl need encouragement, boundaries and continue involvement with their mom.
-How mom perceive life will have and impact on her child (all mom are bad, etc)
-When intimacy and identification with same sex parents is obscured in some way = distrust same sex parent = defensive detachment = girl will reject/pull away form same sex parent even if love is offered.
-Build up healthy same sex friendship = affirm feminine identify
- Need to hear from Dad, "I love you, you are my precious little girl."
NOT "I wished you are a boy!"
I decided to skip the adolescence stage for now. I think that is already a lot of information to digest...at least for me. :)
As you can see, it is really not so hard for a healthy family, as in a family in which the parents are having healthy relationship. However, for a dysfuncitonal family, a lot of things could go wrong.
I also bought a book called "Raising Gender Confident Kids" by Melvin Wong, PHD. Hopefully when I read it I will have more to share. For now, I need to get some sleep. :)
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Ok, may be I pushed her too hard today....Den fallen asleep on car ride back from Subang Parade...she had not do that for a long long time...
I have not been giving Den any fever medicine since yesterday morning (Wed) since she only has slight fever (around 100F, slight to us, we only give medicine when the fever goes up to 102F). She is still on antibiotic though :(
I thought since she has kind of recover and slept 11 hours, we should go back to our normal schooling today. May be I should have take into consideration that even though she slept 11 hours, her slept was very restless. Her nose was stuck tru the night. I wanted to get more done this few weeks because of we are going for vacation soon.
She woke up late, around 11am. After simple breakfast, we started school with Bible verse. She can get the whole verse now almost without any help. Then we read the last story from Stories From Africa. We loved this book. It is well written for read aloud. Very simple and yet touching. Today we read about a real story about little girl name Dija who had leprosy. She ran away from home so that she can get help in a house of medicine (for leprosy). There she met a kind Christian lady who also has leprosy. Dija accepted Christ and she was healed too. I almost cried when I read about her difficult journey in searching for the house of medicine. We really enjoyed the book. I will definitely tell some of this stories in Sunday School. I think it is very important to tell good stories to kids. They might forget the theories or teachings but good stories and good songs stay with them tru their lives.
Last month, during our holiday kids camp, we told 6 stories in 6 sessions. The kids loved the stories. They can identified with the stories and they remembered the stories. The problem is something it is hard to get a good story.
After that, we prayed and then we read another wonderful book called Is A Blue Whale The Biggest Thing There Is? It is under Science. It is a short little book about...not whale...but UNIVERSE! (Read my review at http://www.squidoo.com/ahomeschoolingmomjornel)
This is the first time I introduce the topic to her. Thanks to the book, she seemed to enjoy it very much, we talked about planets, stars, solar system, milky way and finally the universe. I also took out the book my friend Meg gave her a book last year about planets - it has photo and pictures of each planets.
My parents are getting a new dog soon, I asked Den if she wanted to name the dog after one of the planet. She agreed and chosen "Pluto". I kind of like "Jupiter" or "Mercury".
After that we draw on her scrapbook. We draw a tiny Sweden, a whale, a tall Mount Everest, a bigger Earth, a hug Sun and finally a hug milky way.
After that we practiced Chinese flesh card, she almost get all of them correct. I let her work on 2 revision worksheets.
Then we had lunch. ST cooked! Yes!
It took her one hour to have lunch. Sore throat make it hard for her to swallow.
After lunch, we read a story from Stories From Around The World. This time is a story from Persia. It is about a girl who tried to escape arranged marriage by hiding in a lamp. Finally she fallen in love with a prince and married the prince. I talked to Den about arranged marriage in the past. She did seem interested. :)
I also continue our study about money. I took out a 50 sens and asked her to give me different ways to make up 50 sen (for example, two 20sens +one 10sens; five 10sens, etc). She did very well but took a lot of concentration.
Later on, I let her work on 2 worksheets about money and 3 from Handwriting Without Tears. After that she watched her Chinese cartoon.
After dinner we went out to Subang Parade, Den and I went to MPH while ST went and bought some stuffs. After an hour or so, Den request to go home! It never happen before!! So we knew she must has been exhausted. True enough, she fallen asleep in the car.
May be we should not study tomorrow.
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
Den has been having high fever since Sunday. Almost did not respond to normal fever medicine - still went up 102F with medication. Finally, when we get her to doc on Mon night and got antibiotic (I hate to use that but doc insisted) and a stronger fever medicine (didn't realize there is a stronger medicine!). She responded well to the stronger medicine but had to take it every 6-7 hours or else the fever is up high again. Only until this morning, she only have slight fever 100F even though her last fever med was 8 hours ago. I decided to wait and see and did not give her any fever med. Her fever never goes up above 100.5F. Thank God for that. If she is still running with high fever, we need to send her for blood test tomorrow morning.
She has been like a monkey despite the fever, so we were not too worry. Thanks for all the prayers!
We did not do much when she was sick. I read 3-4 Chinese stories, 1 chapter of Milly Molly Mandy for her and she also spent more than an hours playing/reading Dr. Seuss's ABC. Most of the time, she just wanted to read her self. So we set her up in an AC room comfortably and let her read.
Since she only had light fever today, I asked her if she wanted to study. At first, she said no, she just wanted to play. I let her be, even though I knew she would get bored soon and asked me to study with her. True enough, at 1pm, she begged me to study with her.
We practiced the long verse together, surprisingly, she can almost said out the whole verse without much assistance. May be because I have been quoting this verse quite often in our conversation tru out the week to remind her not to make cutting remark especially to her friend (she like to tease EE).
After that we read a Bible story about Jesus went to the temple in Jerusalem when he was 12 and also a short wanted ad titled "Boy Wanted" from The Children's Book of Virtues. In the ad it pointed out the right attitude of a boy. I might not agreed with everything (too conservative for my taste, but then the ad came out early 1990, so what can I said) but quite an interesting read.
We prayed and then we start phonic lesson. I was debating if I should do phonic with her since she was sick. I decided to go ahead because we had not have any phonic lesson this week. It was a wrong call. She cant concentrate well and got upset when she cant get the words. She still finished the lesson but was tired after that. I think it was too stressful for her.
After phonic, I switched to something lighter and she enjoyed. We looked at paintings from A Child's Book of Art and a poem about frying fox from Eric Carle's Animals Animals.
We had porridge after that and then we hug hug for about an hour. She was bored with hug hug and asked me to read her mother goose and I did. We read 5 poem and looked at the stuffs I found online - How many miles to Babylon, Lavender's Blue, Hector Protector, Ladybird, Bells of London. The only I cant find anything about is Hector Protector, the rest I have pictures and music and some with movie. I even found a Disney version of Lavender's Blue and she loved it. Watched it twice and begged me to let her watch it again. I loaded as much as I can to this site for you to download (if you have no permission to access, pls contact me)
That's all the time we had before her Chinese cartoon. We might do some worksheets together in the evening. Let's see how is she doing first.
Thursday, July 2, 2009
Den has been having very high fever since Sunday morning. We had not been studying. Don't think we should stressed her brain now. :)
However, I continue to read to her whenever she wanted it.
This is the write up about last Thursday (2 July). I had no time to update it until now. Hmm...I hope I still remember what we did...